A little known impact of cancer treatment, and certainly one that I had never heard of prior to my own brush with cancer, is the impact that it can have on your hormones, and potential early onset menopause.
I guess if you stop to think about it, you expect that any gynaecological cancer such as ovarian or womb cancer are probably going to impact your long-term fertility, and any surgery in this area is likely to impact your hormones and subsequent menopausal status.
But who thinks about it until they have to? And what I certainly never appreciated previously was the fact that many breast cancers can be hormonally driven, and therefore in order to keep the cancer at bay your hormones need to be suppressed or (as was the case with me) even if your cancer has nothing to do with hormones, the chemotherapy itself is brutal on the ovaries and can create a chemically induced menopause – even if this is a temporary situation.
So imagine my shock when, whilst still reeling from the news that I had cancer at the tender age of 40 I was told that the chemotherapy that I was about to be given was likely to induce an early menopause and this may or may not be a permanent situation. What!?!
Now, I have two wonderful children and absolutely no plans to add to my family, but being given this news automatically made me feel sad… I guess there is a difference between choosing not to have any more children and having that choice taken away. I can only imagine how heart-breaking that news must be for those that have not started their family yet, and consider myself extremely thankful that I am not in that situation.
You don’t realise it until you are confronted with the potential early loss of fertility but so much of our sense of identity as women and a whole heap of feelings about age and getting older are tied up in our fertility and menopausal status. This was just another part of this “journey” that I certainly hadn’t ever bargained on, although to be fair, I hadn’t really bargained on any of this, including the cancer itself.
So just another part of the gift that keeps on giving! It all adds to the mass of emotions that swirl through your brain as you try to adjust to the news, and initially I didn’t really take it in – menopause… WTF! However, given that I am never knowingly under-prepared for anything I decided to look into what this actually meant and instantly wished I hadn’t. Menopause was one of those things that I had conveniently tucked away into the “don’t need to think about it yet” sections of my brain, and here it was, rearing it’s monstrous hormone-crazed head!
Symptoms of menopause:
In case you are interested, typical symptoms of menopause include:
Loss of periods
Major mood swings
Hot flushes / hot flashes
Night sweats & insomnia
Thin, dry skin and loss of skin elasticity
Loss of sex drive
Weight gain and a slowed metabolism
When I read this my first thought was one of horror and my second was “WTF is vaginal dryness!?!” Really not something I ever wanted to think about, and definitely not something I ever thought I would be blogging about!
Having already been told that chemo would make any bodily fluids toxic, and knowing that I had breast surgery ahead of me; the prospect of one boob and a toxic, dried up vagina nearly made me want to run screaming in the other direction! I’m not saying it was a rational train of thought and clearly my mind was looking at the worst case scenarios here (I feel it is important to reassure you that this was not the reality too!) but there was definitely a moment when I honestly thought “Um… no thanks, I think I’d rather keep the cancer actually!” Obviously, this wasn’t actually an option, and so into treatment we went…
I think it was somewhere between my second and third round of chemo that I really started to notice the effects of my chemo-pause – I was watching an episode of Britain’s Got Talent, and all of a sudden I was crying my eyes out at the “heartfelt” back stories that I normally roll my eyes at whilst periodically having to strip blankets and clothes off, then on again, then off again. It had begun… it was funny initially, and then started getting less so. By the time we got to the Paclitaxol stage of chemo, it was unrelenting.
The supermarket became a minefield – between the coldness of the refridgerated sections and mild stress of the checkout till and getting my purchases packed up, I would emerge a broken, sweaty mess. It’s not even like I could stop into the resident coffee shop as it turned out that caffeine was a major hot flush trigger too, along with wine, I mean seriously (!?!) restricting access to these things could send any woman over the edge, let alone one who is in the throes of a menopausal mood swing!
How I didn’t kill someone, or myself I’m still not entirely sure…
It became a running joke with my family as the most minor stresses of the day would make me “HOT, HOT, HOT!” – Parallel parking? Flush! Driving in general? Can’t breathe, sweating! Cooking a roast dinner and trying to get everything timed right? Send the fire brigade!
Being at work and trying to remain professional in a meeting situation whilst feeling the flush rise from your stomach to the top of your head was horrific, and I lost any sense of poker face, there was no hiding my feelings as you could gauge exactly how I felt about everything based on how red, sweaty and breathless I was. All of this is tied in with the fact that menopause or in fact anything related to “women’s stuff” still seems to hold a massive taboo in our society, just adding to the embarrassment and humiliation. You can literally feel how uncomfortable it makes people, no matter how much you try to laugh the situation off.
Obviously I didn’t notice any thinning hair (as I was completely bald at the time!) but my skin did become dry, thin and would graze easily, and the night sweats were the worst. My whole night would be an endless struggle between being too hot and waking up sweating from head to toe, throwing off all the covers and then freezing to death. I barely slept for months and this left me tired and grumpy in the day-time. And (apologies to anyone in my family that is reading this!) my sex life was affected too – without wanting to go into too much detail, it is safe to say that everything took a lot more effort… So, with all of this going on it is really no wonder that mood swings are such a major part of the symptoms!
As my cancer is triple negative, and therefore not hormone driven, I begged both my GP and my oncologist to let me have HRT, they refused. It made me furious! My GP did prescribe a low dose of anti-depressants and blood pressure tablets that have also been shown to help with hot flushes but I didn’t personally get on with them so that put paid to that. However, if you are suffering, then it is worth asking about and giving it a go as you may well react more positively to the medication than I did.
I spent hours researching the web for possible solutions to relieve the misery and tried endless tips and tricks in the quest of managing menopausal symptoms. The following are what I found worked best for me:
Drinking ice cold water just as a flush was coming on, and making sure I always had a large glass of water next to my bed for night flushes
Sleeping with the window open to allow more airflow into the bedroom at night
Switching to a pure wool duvet, a silk pillowcase and a temperature regulating mattress topper – although this was a major investment it was cheaper than changing our mattress which being memory foam tends to sleep “hot”. If nothing else, the wool duvet made the biggest difference of these three things and I wouldn’t swap back to a synthetic duvet for all the money in the world now
Wearing layers that were easy to strip on and off as the flushes hit
Natural fabrics – particularly for nightwear
Facial spray for instant cooling relief
A portable hand fan – I particularly liked a retro folding hand-fan which had the added bonus of making me feel like I was getting away with looking like a glamorous, retro diva rather than a middle-aged menopausal woman in the throes of a humiliating hot flush! It probably didn’t, but positive mental attitude and all that!
Moisturise, moisturise, moisturise! This goes for your face, your body and your foof!
Aromatherapy pillow spray to help get back to sleep after waking
Having an old-fashioned handkerchief for post-flush brow/decolletage/bald head mopping
I know lots of people also swear by the gel pillows by their feet and head in bed at night, which is why we stock them here. I confess I never tried it myself as switching the duvet etc worked so well for me, but it is certainly a lot cheaper than replacing all of your bedding, so is worth trying first before investing in a total bedroom revamp.
Something else that many ladies swear by are the lady-magnets – magnets worn on your pants to relieve PMT and menopausal symptoms. The hury is out on this one. I did try one of these and it did seem to help initially, but then one day it just seemed to stop working. I do have some very entertaining stories about attaching myself to various metal objects (trolleys, the cooker, in fact all manner of random metal things whilst out and about!) and a particularly embarrassing yet hilarious incident involving a hen-do to Paris, a Channel Tunnel security gate and a forgotten lady-magnet (I can’t tell you that one as I will lose my very best “you wont believe what happened to me once” story). Comedic value aside, general consensus from the medical professionals I have spoken to about them is that they have a placebo effect only, however, so many women swear by them we stock them here if you want to give it a go.
I consider myself very fortunate that 8-months post-chemo and with no hormone suppressing treatment in my plan, symptoms reduced dramatically and things are all back to normal. I am one of the lucky ones for whom this was a very temporary situation (although I’m kind of annoyed that I will have to go through the real menopause again in the future.
For those of you still in the hot and sweaty clutches of your treatment-induced menopause, the following little definition of this particular time of life will either make you laugh or cry, depending on where your mood is at right now… either way, I won’t tell you to find your roar today as I imagine you find it quite regularly and possibly sometimes when you don’t really mean to, but I do hope you keep fighting fierce!
Menopause /meno-poz/Definition: Derived from the latin root of WTF is happening to me… the time of life when a woman doesn’t know if she is coming or going, on fire or freezing, happy or sad, wants to diet or eat everything in sight. Women in menopause may self-medicate with: wine, chocolate, vodka, ice cream, carbs, new shoes, online purchases, netflix or looking at pictures of Tom Hardy 😉
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